Self Help Strategies

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Though many people would disagree, it is actually true that a little worrying can be a good part of your personality. It helps you to plan your goals out and make sure to have them done. However, it is easy to cross a line into worrying too much and becoming obsessed with terrible scenarios; this is when worrying becomes a problem in itself.

Chronic worriers justify their worrying by believing that there is a chance even the slightest things could go wrong, and insist on preparing themselves for any kind of surprising element in their schedule so they can seize control of the outcome. Yet, you have to know that worrying that things will fall apart does not make life any more certain or predictable. Sometimes we deal with bad things as they happen because we have no option. Worrying makes you feel as though you have control, but rather it is an illusion – you are no better prepared. By worrying about possible future outcomes, you inhibit yourself from enjoying the good things that are happening now.

Unhealthy stress is not motivating, but rather discouraging and rather unproductive – it takes from your emotional strength and makes you more anxious, interfering with your daily life. The good news is that there are effective self-help strategies proven to calm your mind and lessen stress.

Of course the easiest advice would be to stop worrying. The simplest solution is not really a solution though, nor is it realistic to believe you can rid yourself of anxiety so easily. Yet, lessening your worrying and taking steps toward eliminating whatever is causing you stress is a great way to get to the bottom of your stress, rather than postponing your worrying.

If you continue to worry about aspects of your life, at least set aside a time and place to do so. Make it the same time and place everyday you choose to organize and collect your thoughts. Do not plan for this right before bed, or first thing in the morning, but rather in the evening when you are done with most of your work and are a little more relaxed. Use this time to conquer whatever is on your mind. Promise yourself that this planning and thought collecting will leave you relaxed and worry-free.

If you do become anxious about something, whether it is a suddenly remembered assignment or a chore you need to do later, make a mental note of it. If you are forgetful, write it down and put it somewhere you pass by everyday, like your refrigerator or desk.
Forget about it for the time being and continue your day the best you can. When you come to your worrying time, go through the things you have listed in your mind or on paper as future concerns. To your surprise, they may not seem as bad or are easy to deal with when focused on coming up with a solution. Wind up your worry period as soon as you can and enjoy each day to the fullest. Over time, by postponing the worrying, you can break your habit of continuously thinking about your problems, giving you a sense of control and further reduce the stress you experience.

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